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Every relationship has its struggles, here Relate shows how date night can make or break a relationship (spoiler alert: If you don’t do it, it could hurt your relationship!).
… More than one in seven adults (15%) in parts of the UK says they “never” find dedicated time to spend with their partner and 19% spend time together just once or a few times a year. This is according to figures released by relationship support charity, Relate.
The good news is that almost half (48%) of people manage to spend dedicated time with their partner, such as a date night, once a week or more.
According to research, partners with children are considerably less likely to find time to spend together – 12% said they never find time and 29% said they find time once a year or a few times a year. The younger the children, the less likely couples were to spend time together.
Relate, which provides relationship support to individuals, couples, families, children and young people says that spending quality time together is a key ingredient for a healthy relationship. They are concerned that time-strapped couples, particularly those with young children, are struggling to find opportunities to enjoy eachother’s company and are offering tips for turning things around.
Relate counsellor, Dee Holmes, said: “Relationships are good for our health and wellbeing so it’s important to make time for them, not only on Valentine’s Day but throughout the year. This can seem difficult when you’re juggling commitments like work and childcare, but if you look after your relationship, it’s likely to have a positive effect on other areas of your life.
Relate’s tips on finding time for your relationship:
Remember that dates can be cheap or free. It could be a walk in the park, a bike ride or a trip to the museum.
Keep it fair. Write one list each of things you’d like to do together. Select any activities that appeal to you both, put them in a jar and pick them out randomly.
Step out of your comfort zone. If your partner suggests a date idea that’s not completely up your street, don’t dismiss it immediately. Trying something that’s a bit of a challenge will let you see each other in a new light and you may end up loving it.
Make it work for you. Some people like to try different things each time whereas others prefer a routine and have something they do together each week.
If you’re low on time, try a date hour.This could be a coffee during the day while your kids are at a swimming lesson, an hour eating a meal together with no phones, and no TV just the two of you. You have to eat so why not use that time to connect.
Think beyond Valentine’s Day. If you tend to do something together on Valentine’s Day and enjoy it then make it into a more regular thing. If there’s an element of surprise, even better!
Help your relationship now by booking a date night slot with me. With rates from £10/h for up to 4 sleeping children, date night once a week is achievable for all families… Make your other half a priority!
*All figures are taken from The Way We Are Now– an annual study of the relationships of over 5000 people across the UK by Relate and Relationships Scotland. The sample size for the study was 413. The study was carried out by YouGov. Fieldwork was undertaken between 18th June and 7th July 2016. These statistics have not been released to the media previously. The survey was carried out online. The figures have been weighted and are representative of all UK adults (aged 16+). YouGov is a member of the British Polling Council. All figures, unless otherwise stated, are from YouGov Plc. Any inaccuracies or errors in the further analyses of these data are the sole responsibility of Relate.
To see the national figures, please contact the Relate media office. Statistics are available for other regions of the UK but the differences are not statistically significant.