Homeschooling Olivia… Deschool

Just going through the process

It’s been a few weeks now since we decided homeschooling was something we were all happy with.

I’d done a lot of research back in 2012 about homeschooling, deschooling, unschooling, online schooling… The list went on and on and it seemed there were a different curriculum for each child out there, and a few left over for good measure. It was quite overwhelming but I have always been keen to try new things!

Back in ’12 I decided it would be a good idea to put a plan in place to see if my girls and I could homeschool. So we gave it a try in the summer holidays and I was (as I usually am) full of optimism. We bought conquer maths and we set off using my minimal knowledge of the whole idea, but Olivia was keen to have a go. And we failed. I think we were set for a fail because:

1-I thought it would be OK to school my children in their school summer holiday… A time they had anticipated for weeks before it came… They were excited to do all the things they couldn’t usually do because they were in school. Sitting down and formally learning was not their idea of fu

2-We didn’t take time out to deschool. We rushed straight in. Deschooling is usually 1 month for every year the child has been in school. It’s almost like they need to be weaned off school and the institutional rhythm. It takes time to get that out of the system. Olivia is now 14 and she has been in school up until last October… We have a long deschool ahead of us.

3-I didn’t find a support network in my area. No one I knew homeschooled their children and the only group I found met so infrequently I found it hard to even get to meet them. And I’m a people person. I needed them.

4-It was just a ‘trial’. I never intended for it to last, and because of that, it didn’t. Not only that I struggled with nagging the children to tidy their room… Getting them to do any sort of formal learning was pushing me over the edge.

Looking back and thinking about what went wrong has enabled us to get things right this time.

Olivia has been deschooling and we have sat down and wrote plans, tried to carry them out, not followed them and assessed why the plans didn’t work. We are currently happy to just find a rhythm that works for us, we are still looking and still trying new methods. Each day we are learning about ourselves and making relationships with others we come across along the way.

I’ve panicked a few times, wondering if Olivia needs to be formally learning sooner, but we are both happy to go with the flow, and embracing the spontaneous learning we come across in every day life and having fun!

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Author: Alex@ministryofminding

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